Also, good parents discipline their children because they want them to grow up to have a life of meaning and joy; they want them to come to a place that is deeply satisfying and filled with good things. Wise parents know that what looks attractive to a child may not be good in the long run, and, conversely, what looks unappealing to a child may be just what the child needs. So rules and demands, words of advice and acts of discipline are not arbitrary but, rather, are like guidewires on a sapling,